Helpless, ambiguous office of female staff
In today’s workplace, it is nothing new for beautiful female employees to be harassed by leaders, and over time, more and more leaders have become bold.
First time in society I met the leader of the satyr last year. After I graduated from graduate school, I went to work in an institution.
It’s hard to find a job now. I can’t find such a job very easily, so I cherish it and take my responsibility seriously.
However, I learned at work that the relationship with the leaders is too difficult to get along with. It is not as simple as I imagined.
It wasn’t the job that caused me a headache, but the ambiguous harassment of several leaders.
From the first day I went to work, when the supervisor looked at me, his eyes glowed.
I didn’t think much about it, because everyone said that I was beautiful and a pure girl, and boys had chased me since high school, so I have been used to the hot eyes of men.
When I was at work, the supervisor and the leader took great care of me and arranged less work, so that I had more time to familiarize myself with the business. I can ask him if I don’t understand.
One time when I was off work, the supervisor’s car stopped by my side and asked, “Where is Xiaowen?
“I said to go home, and he asked where he lived again?
After I answered, he said, “Just the way, get in the car, I’ll hit you for a while.
“So I got in the car. After getting in the car, he chatted with me a few words and asked,” I just went to work and adapted to the environment of the unit? ”
I said adaptation, and he asked again, “How is the job familiar?
“With the guidance and care of my leadership, I have mastered it.”
He laughed: “Xiao Wen is still very good at talking!”
Do it well, but I still need to stress you?
“We chatted for a while like this, and he asked jokingly again:” Xiaowen, I’ll send you home, don’t you thank me? ”
I said, “Thank you.
“” How are you going to thank me? ”
Seeing me silent, he put his hand on my hand, and I pulled it out instinctively.
He said blankly, “Does my hand have a battery?
Are you so far from me?
“I don’t know how to answer him or how to deal with such things. I don’t think I can take his car in the future.
However, I can’t take his car, but I can’t help but work. It is inevitable to contact the leader during work. When there is no one, he will say some ambiguous and provocative words. I dare not refute him. After all, he is a leader and ca n’tI want to wear “small shoes” for me.
Once the leader explained his work, looked at no one, patted my butt, and I avoided it. He was a little upset and said, “Maybe my request is too much, but you have to think about it.
“I didn’t know what he meant, but I heard he was threatening me.
The first time I was kissed by a leader, I dared not offend him.
Once, he arranged a lot of work for me, but I didn’t finish it, he asked me to work overtime.
I finished overtime late that day. When it was almost finished, I answered his phone and asked me how was it. I said it was done.
He said it was hard. I’ll invite you to dinner. I didn’t go.
A few days later, he arranged for me to do a lot of work. I don’t know if he started it intentionally.
One day, he said he would talk to me about work and invited me to the coffee shop.
I wanted to refuse, but I was afraid he would take revenge on me, so I went.
When he came to the single room, he changed his former seriousness and talked to me about some work. He said that he would have to re-divide the work and adjust it next. Ask me if you have any ideas.
Of course I will not say anything, I can only say that I obey the leadership arrangements.
After chatting for a while, he sat next to me. I tried to hide but didn’t dodge. He hugged me and kissed him on the sofa.
Although there was no substantive contact, he had already attacked me and I felt insulted. When I went to work the next day, I saw that he was very unnatural, and he seemed to have happened nothing.
He called me again to his office.
When I went to his office, he was indifferent. For the time being, I closed the door of the office, and then whispered to me, “Did you sleep well last night?
“No,” I reluctantly answered him.
“I can’t sleep well too, I miss you, come and kiss one.
“Speaking, he wanted to pull my hand, and I flew away quickly.
The “first leader” made me call his brother to give me a headache. It was the leader and the “first leader”.
That time I went to send him the documents. He asked me to wait for a while and said that he would sign up immediately. I was waiting by the side. He asked me what he was doing while watching.
I answered to sort out the documents, and he asked me again if I would do the job, and I said yes.
We talked about working for a while, and talked about some common things. It seemed that the distance was a lot closer. The “first leader” said, “I’m not allowed to call me a position, call my brother.
“I didn’t expect him to say such a thing, and I didn’t know how to answer it for a while, but I didn’t call his brother.
I think that leadership is leadership, and there must be boundaries. If I really call his brother, he will have further requirements and I will be more passive.
The “first leader” I did not dare to offend, because he has the power to kill and kill, and I can only keep a distance with him.
Fortunately, he doesn’t do this often, but sometimes there are no people in the office, and he will say tentative things.
Once, when I sent the document, the director in front just left, and the “first manager” asked: “What is Xiaowen busy with recently, why haven’t I seen you for a few days?”
“I’m a little overjoyed. After all, the” No. 1 Chief “is very busy with work. He also knows that he hasn’t seen me in the past few days. This shows that he pays attention to me. Thinking of this, I replied,” I still do those daily tasks.Without things, how can I easily disturb and trouble the leader?
“That’s not necessarily true. If I need to do anything in life, I can say it.
”Thank you for your concern,” I answered.
”I haven’t done anything yet, thank me!
Is there something I need to help?
“No, I’m very touched by the leader saying so. You are so busy and you can still care about an ordinary subordinate. Thanks for that.
”You speak very well, do you have a boyfriend?
“No” “You look so beautiful, there must be many people around you who are after you.”
“Oh, I haven’t worked for a long time, I don’t want to find a boyfriend, I want to do my job well first, and I will talk about my personal problems later.
“I was drunk by the leader. Occasionally, I would also accept his phone call and ask me to send him a document or something. As long as he had no one in his office, he would say a few ambiguous words or take ambiguous actions.
At that time, the superiors came to check the work. At dinner, the leader found several lesbians with good temperament to entertain the inspection team.
In the middle of the meal, I saw the “first man” in the bathroom. He asked me where to go after meals and I said to go home.
After the entertainment was over, the driver split up and sent the members of the inspection team. I took the “No. 1” car home. I sat with him after him. He was close to me. In the dark, his hand held meI stroked my hand a few times, and I didn’t dare to speak out and resist, because the driver was driving, I was worried that it would be bad to pass, so I had to put up with it.
That’s not to say, there is another leader in charge who can’t cope with me.
Sometimes, I will receive a text message from him, either asking me to eat or sending a text message that I care about.
I can refuse politely, but the office can’t help but go.
Once, he called and asked me to go to his office. I went, and he arranged an insignificant job for me. When he told me, I turned around and wanted to leave. He asked me if there was anything urgent.
I said no, he talked to me for a while and asked me what I planned in the future. I said that he would obey the arrangement of the leader. He laughed and said, “Okay, as long as you obey, promotion is a matter of time.
Besides, you are so beautiful and so emotional, as long as you are smart, you can talk about promotion.
“I knew he had something in it, so I didn’t dare talk about it anymore, said thank you, and turned away.
Soon, he called me to his office on the grounds of work, and I couldn’t help it.
He sat at the large boss’ table and asked if the work he had given me was complete?
After I reported truthfully, he said: “I had a dream last night. I dreamed that we were on a business trip. After finishing my business, I took you to Hainan and we went swimming by the sea .” Then he came to hug meI was struggling. He fumbled a few times on my body and let go, saying, “Xiao Wen’s body is so soft and I feel so good.”Your boyfriend is very blessed!
“I don’t have a boyfriend yet. If the leader is okay, I will leave.
“” There is one more thing. Tonight we are going to entertain the relationship unit. You go together.
In the evening, at the wine table, the leader and commander Ruoding made me toast a lot of wine, everyone was very happy to drink, and I was very hard to drink, and it was very uncomfortable.
Watching me vomit in the bathroom, he asked with concern: “It’s okay, drink some water, or let the driver take you home first.
“I said no, just rest for a while.
At the end of the meal, he asked the driver to take him to the leader of the relationship unit. He drove me home. He asked me if I wanted to go to the teahouse to sit and wake up. I said no.
He drove the car. I lay in a daze and sat down. I felt that the car stopped and the door was pulled open. He sat next to me and hugged me and asked. Baby is okay. I opened my eyes and saw the car.It was dark outside the window.
He started to kiss me. I struggled. The more I struggled, the more crazy he kissed. His hand reached into my clothes and touched casually. At this moment, I was really panicking, afraid to let him succeed, and the wine would wake up.
I shouted his position, but he didn’t listen at all, and said quickly: “I like you, call my brother, baby, I love you .” I tightly guarded the most critical part of the body and said: putDrive me, I hurt . “Without my cooperation, he did not succeed, but I felt very wronged.
I’m sad and have a headache. Although he didn’t really get me, the boundary with him has broken the professional relationship between the leadership and subordinates. I don’t know how to deal with this relationship in the future.
Small leaders have headaches. This is just a few major leaders. There are also small leaders in some departments that are easy to hate and have headaches.
Although they did not physically invade me like these leaders, the light from their eyes and some ambiguous words made me hard to accept.
I don’t want to offend any of these people, and I can’t offend. After all, I’m in the clear. If I annoy them, it will be very detrimental to my future job development.
I would like to find a best of both worlds, not only offend them, but also very safe.
If I offend them, my ascension will be hopeless, and my future will be bleak.
What is even more horrible is that a leader actually told me directly that there are many women who have been promoted through “sell yourself”, and some male colleagues have introduced their lover in the organization to the leader in order to be promoted. Both are reused. YouI’m still young and don’t understand these things, but I can’t be willful. I have to think about my future.
I asked him: “If I do what you say, what will I get?
He smiled secretly and said, “Can you such a smart girl not know?”
“You don’t say, how could I know?
“” It’s all self-explanatory. Why do you have to say it?
He said, looking at me faintly.
After hearing this, I was extremely worried and really wanted to leave.
Escaping is not the way. There are such people everywhere, but if I face them, I do n’t know how to grasp them.
Besides, since the post-80s are not assigned work, it is difficult to find an office to work, so I do not want to leave easily.
Now, when I think of these things, I have a headache. Every day, I have a tense nerve at work, I feel tired, and I can’t put my mind on work.
I don’t know if they will use similar offensive methods or revenge on the female subordinates they want but can’t get. Can I deal with them?
What do they think?